We're all searching for something. I know lots of people who are searching for God. Or meaning. or inner-peace. And, recently, I began working on a book by a profoundly wise Buddhist abbot who lived alone in the mountains for three years, searching for the Truth.
Those are all Big Questions. I decided a long time ago that I'd settle for just trying to understand people. Figuring that there was bound to be a book somewhere that would explain these mysterious creatures--including myself--to me, I dove headfirst into reading and eventually washed to shore in publishing.
Being a reader has provided me with thousands of bibles, hundreds of gurus, and an occasional piranha in my search for understanding. Over the years, I've vacillated wildly between fiction and non-fiction, reading about people and hanging out with them, thinking hard and just experiencing, and editing-and-or-teaching and learning from others, published and unpublished.
After all these years on this Amazonian quest, I still can't tell you any more than the original God-is-Love definition I was given when I was four, any more about the meaning of life than Monty Python can, or any sure-fire way to obtain inner-peace 24/7. But my seeking has kept me bobbing down the river with my head generally above water. Most importantly, it's carried me to amazing people, many who seem much closer than I am to having answers to the Biggies. And I enjoy these people tremendously.
A few years ago, my husband and I were trying to figure out just what it was we liked about people we liked. How much wood can a wood chuck chuck, anyway? We've both been teachers for many years, so we're familiar with the labels that get put on people and both truly, madly, deeply opposed to labeling. Parenting two strong individuals has brought that resistance even closer to home. But there are times when a handy semaphore is so nice: That movie is so Adam Sandler; he's the Michael Jordan of lacrosse players, I'm so ADD, that dress is so '80s.
When "so cool" came up short, we realized it wasn't that easy. Many of the positive labels that the world wants to put on people have connotations of smugness, clubby-ness and self-satisfaction that left us thinking we'd really rather not hang out with those people, even if they were so cool. And some of the terms we rejected made us realize that we couldn't dislike people for being that way, because, to some degree, we were that way, too. Or perhaps we shouldn't be. Aggh.
It was becoming a ridiculous exercise in splitting hairs, navel-gazing and wasting time when we finally decided that what we really liked were people who didn't take the world's word for anything. People who were willing to make their own decisions about other people. People who were open, people who were seekers--with a small s--and people who didn't perceive their own pursuits to be the be-all-and- end-all of existence. People who understood that life is not a mountain with one summit, but a vast majestic range with many peaks to be bagged by many different explorers.
One of the words we thought might be appropriate was "creative." But there are so many people who would rush to tell you--and to believe--that they are not creative. Or tell you that they would have been creative, but their second grade art teacher told them that their angel looked like a sheep or their English teacher crumpled up their story because the commas were wrong. Even if their creativity is locked so deep in their double helix that they'll never reach it, these people still rock.
We never came up with a good label for this kind of person we like (PWL), and I'm glad. It's a Y-weh kind of thing. That deep curiosity and love that these particular individuals seem to have is a definite divine spark. And the spark that makes these Un-namables so appealing exists not just the ones who are lucky enough to have it close to the surface, or the ones who have worked hard to mine it so we can marvel at the way it refracts life, or even the ones who just make us want to say joie-de-vivre without quotation marks. We can find it in everybody, if we look hard enough.
In pursuit of a concise definition, and the easy label that might emerge from it, I remain in a state of dynamic tension worthy of Charles Atlas. And that's OK. Whatever this je ne sais quoi that I see so frequently in the authors I work with every day, that I sense so strongly in the people I love, and that I catch glimpses of in nearly every one I encounter is--I am grateful for its beckoning glow.
The world out there has been labeled as cold and cruel. Sometimes, when I'm tired, I want to take the easy route and accept that definition. And right when I'm about to give in and say, "Oh, you're right, life sucks and then you die" or dis Raffi or buy a decal that has Calvin peeing on something beautiful or that horrible bunny on it, someone will sparkle or shimmer or downright glow with this quality and I am completely re-energized.
I'll never give up looking for a definition, some terminology, the perfect word to explain PWL. I get a kick out of words. But if I ever find the right label, I know it still won't be all-encompassing enough to describe the wonders that lurk inside all the lovely enigmatic people who are bobbing along beside me on this adventure down the river of books, through the publishing jungle, in the direction of Answers. I just know I like them.
Here's one thing I have learned: truth is stranger than fiction, but fiction can be truer than truth.
If a wood chuck could chuck wood.
In the middle of the night
I go walking in my sleep
From the mountains of faith
To the river so deep
I must be lookin' for something
Something sacred I lost
But the river is wide
And it's too hard to cross
even though I know the river is wide
I walk down every evening and stand on the shore
I try to cross to the opposite side
So I can finally find what I've been looking for
In the middle of the night
I go walking in my sleep
Through the valley of fear
To a river so deep
I've been searching for something
Taken out of my soul
Something I'd never lose
Something somebody stole
I don't know why I go walking at night
But now I'm tired and I don't want to walk anymore
I hope it doesn't take the rest of my life
Until I find what it is I've been looking for
In the middle of the night
I go walking in my sleep
Through the jungle of doubt
To the river so deep
I know I'm searching for something
Something so undefined
That it can only be seen
By the eyes of the blind
In the middle of the night
I’m not sure about a life after this
God knows I've never been a spiritual man
Baptized by the fire, I wade into the river
That is runnin' through the promised land
In the middle of the night
I go walking in my sleep
Through the desert of truth
To the river so deep
We all end in the ocean
We all start in the streams
We're all carried along
By the river of dreams
In the middle of the night
~Billy Joel